• Lamplight

    You are always you, no matter how much you change

    I have thought a lot about how we change as we grow up, but still remain ourselves. I see it in my kids as the years go by. They learn new skills, their faces and bodies grow, their thoughts and behaviors slowly shift toward who they will eventually become. At the heart of it all, their core selves never truly change. They are still them. I am still me. I am the infant me that lay crying in a crib, wanting milk and comfort. I am the toddler me being held by his parents, feeling safe and warm. I am the boy who became deaf and doesn’t remember it, but…

  • change is good

    The Rabbit List: Getting Control of Rascally Habits

    If you’re a human being, you’ve got habits. Actually, if you’re a living creature, you’ve got habits. I’m not sure that non-living creatures have habits, unless you want to call a rock’s sitting there on the ground as the rock’s habit and water flowing in a river as the water’s habit. Wait, let me rein my thoughts back in, which just started to go down the rabbit hole of thinking. Let’s start over: You’re human and you’ve got habits. You’ve got good ones and you’ve got not-so-good ones, perhaps ones that keep you awake at night wondering whydeargoddidihavetohavethatcookiebecausenowicantsleep or something like that. Not that I know anything about whatever a…

  • Lamplight

    I can’t change your mind

    Like a lot of people, I’ve spent a lot of time trying to change the minds of people I know. When I was 12 years old I tried to convert everyone to vegetarianism. I also tried to convince Christians that we descended from apes. I’ve tried to get people to see things my way about all kinds of topics. I think the majority of people do this, so it’s not a unique trait. My recent posts probably come across as me trying to change the minds of those reading what I had to say on these topics. You might have thought I was trying to change the minds of people…